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The Plain Man and His Wife平凡人和他的妻子

第五小节
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in choosing a distraction—that is to say, in choosing a rival to his business—he should select some pursuit whose nature differs as much as possible from the nature of his business, and which will bring into activity another side of his character. if his business is monotonous, demanding care and solicitude rather than irregular intense efforts of the brain, then let his distraction be such as will make a powerful call upon his brain. but if, on the other hand, the course of his business runs in crises that string up the brain to its tightest strain, then let his distraction be a foolish and merry one. many men fall into the error of assuming that their hobbies must be as dignified and serious as their vocations, though surely the example of the greatest philosophers ought to have taught them better! they seem to imagine that they should continually be improving themselves, in either body or mind. if they take up a sport, it is because the sport may improve their health. and if the hobby is intellectual it must needs be employed to improve their brain. the fact is that their conception of self-improvement is too narrow. in their restricted sense of the phrase, they possibly don’t need improving; they possibly are already improved to the point of being a nuisance to their fellow-creatures; possibly what they need is worsening. in the broad and full sense of the phrase self-improvement, a course of self-worsening might improve them. i have known men—and everybody has known them—who would approach nearer to perfection if they could only acquire a little carelessness, a little absent-mindedness, a little illogicalness, a little irrational and infantile gaiety, a little unscrupulousness in the matter of the time of day. these considerations should be weighed before certain hobbies are dismissed as being unworthy of a plain man’s notice.

then comes the hour of decision, in which the wise plain man should exert all that force of will for which he is famous in his house. for this hour may be of supreme importance—may be the close of one epoch in his life and the beginning of another. the more volitional energy he can concentrate in it, the more likely is he to succeed in the fine enterprise of his own renaissance. he must resolve with as much intensity of will as he once put into the resolution which sent him to propose marriage to his wife. and, indeed, he must be ready to treat his hobby somewhat as though it were a woman desired—with splendid and uncalculating generosity. he must shower money on it, and, what is more, he must shower time on it. he must do the thing properly. a hobby is not a hobby until it is glorified, until some real sacrifice has been made for it. if he has chosen a hobby that is costly, both in money and in time, if it is a hobby difficult for a busy and prudent man to follow, all the better. if it demands that his business shall suffer a little, and that his life-long habits of industry shall seem to be jeopardized, again all the better. for, you know, despite his timid fears, his business will not suffer, and lifelong habits, even good ones, are not easily jeopardized. one of the most precious jewels of advice ever offered to the plain man was that he should acquire industrious habits, and then try to lose them! he will soon find that he cannot lose them, but the transient struggles against them will tend always to restore the sane balance of his nature.

he must deliberately arrange pleasures for himself in connection with his hobby, and as often as possible. once a week at least his programme should comprise some item of relaxation to which he can look forward with impatience because he has planned it, and because he has compelled seemingly more urgent matters to give way to it; and look forward to it he must, tasting it in advance, enjoying it twice over! thus may the appetite for pleasure, the ability really to savour it, be restored—and incidentally kept in good trim for full use when old age arrives and he enters the lotus-land. and with it all, when the hour of enjoyment comes, he must insist on his mind being free; expelling every preoccupation, nonchalantly accepting risks like a youth, he must abandon himself to the hour. let him practise lightheartedness as though it were charity. indeed, it is charity—to his household, for instance. ask his household.

he says:

“all this is very dangerous. my friends won’t recognize me. i may go too far. i may become an idler and a spendthrift.”

have no fear.

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